Once upon a time, not so long ago…
There was a group of bloggers on Tumblr who became good friends. Such good friends that we talked on an almost daily basis, many of us spent waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much time on here, did nice things for one another and we watched out for each other. Such good friends that the phrase was coined “We are more than Bon Jovi Fans, We are the BONJOVIFAMILY.”
Over time many of those bloggers have disappeared. No time for Tumblr. Lost faith in our band. Lost faith in friendships.
What still remains is the idea. That a group of people with similar interests, love and passion for a band and their music can come together and share a friendship, a bond.
Bon Jovi Tumblr should be fun. It was never meant to be a competition. These are just blogs. Just pictures and thoughts. But behind the blogs are people. Real people with feelings. Are any of us perfect? No. Have we all made mistakes on here? Hurt someones feelings, sent a nasty message, made a post someone objected to? Probably.
Last night a blogger reached out to me. We had not talked in a long time. For whatever reasons she had distanced herself from our fandom quite sometime ago but no matter what, she will always be a member of the BONJOVIFAMILY to me.
Over the last year she has been targeted with many accusatory messages from many of my friends. Many of the bloggers here who post regularly and are well known in the tags have been the recipients of nasty anon messages for quite sometime now. Someone with the intention of cyberbullying us. I myself have received some horrible messages trying to turn me against my friends. Some of them were just completely rude and offensive. If they are anything like what my other friends are receiving, I understand why they are so eager to find out who is behind all the crap.
However…I beg of all of you involved. As your Jovimama. As your friend. As someone who has been down a similar road and been involved in a terrible feud on here which has since been resolved and that I regret every time I talk to BonJovi-News who has become one of my best friends on here… PLEASE think before you accuse someone of this.
Until someone has a way to track an anon right down to their url address everything you assume may be wrong. The person who is being accused of all this is adamant that she is not behind the nasty anon messages.
I know I have no right to tell anyone what to do around here, however I felt that I could not sit back and be silent about this. I love you all. You know that. I just believe that without real, hard evidence this person is innocent. What started out with trying to defend ourselves from cyberbullying is ironically turning into a group of really wonderful, kind people cyberbullying someone else. We are better than that.
Please leave this person alone.