This is personal.
I’m so sad today.
See this cute boy? This is my son. I know every Mom adores their son or should adore their son…and I am no exception.
He’s got a huge heart and a wonderful sense of humor and basically his main faults are that he leaves his room in a bit of a mess and He’s not a huge fan of Bon Jovi…
(The first one I can live with…the second one we’re still working on.)
So as I was saying, this sweet young guy…
…met a girl on here and planned a big trip to L.A. for the FYF Fest this weekend. He put out over $1000.00 on plane, passport costs, travel ins and concert tickets. He had been talking to this girl and planning this trip for approx 8 months. The plan was they would attend the concert together and he could stay at her place. They were then going to spend a week in San Francisco sight seeing and hanging out.
When he told me about this I was completely shocked. He’d already booked his flight and bought the tickets. Even though I wasn’t comfortable with it, I reminded myself he is 20 and it’s not my right to tell him he should or shouldn’t do something anymore. Instead I embraced the idea that it would be a great adventure. Of all people, who am I to question his passion for music and the desire to travel to a locale where he can see his favorite bands?
So I did my best to shove my fears and nagging questions to the back of my mind and tried to share his excitement for the trip.
Yesterday, we tied up all the loose ends. Getting all the last minute things done. He was so excited!
I couldn’t help but be excited for him. He’s never been to L.A. before and he was so stoked. We talked about all the cool things he’d see and he said “Make sure you answer my texts Mom.” (I’m kind of notorious for putting a low interest level on my phone…)
"What if I find something Bon Jovi-ish? Maybe at the Walk of Fame?"
I be like “Yeah, just my luck you’d run into Jon or Richie and call me and I’d miss it…”
So….after all this….he receives a message at about 10:00 p.m. last night that the girl is bailing out. She’s found God. She had to leave town. She needs to distance herself from L.A. She’s sorry but she hopes he’ll understand.
ARE YOU F**KING KIDDING ME?????
After much consideration he decided he had to cut his losses and not go on the trip. The added cost of hotel and not knowing anyone there or how to navigate the city was just a little too overwhelming for him.
I’m not sure why I’m posting this except for the fact that I’m so sad for him and needed to get my emotions out…
As well…maybe as a reminder to people to not be so careless with other people’s hearts and feelings.
This kid is a hard working, sensitive guy. It took him a long time to earn that $1000.00 so this is no small thing. Not to mention the fact that his faith and trust in other human beings has once again been pushed to the limit in this sometimes cold, hard world.
…and then the most amazing thing that came out of this whole awful ordeal. I’m sitting on his bed trying to talk him through the whole thing, my heart breaking for him over his disappointment, and I say “What kind of person does this to someone and then says they’re all about getting closer to God?” and he says “If what she says is true and she’s really going through this life altering situation I can forgive her Mom. I just can’t understand why she didn’t let me know sooner so I could have made other plans?”
I could not believe this. At his lowest, most disappointed moment, my sweet boy found it in his heart to forgive and put this girls feelings ahead of his own.
Just another reason to adore this young man.
When I grow up sweetheart…I want to be just as wonderful as you…
A very proud Mom