So I have been sent many, many messages about what I think about the band and their current situation. I will once again state that as I am just a fan like all of you, I have no inside information and I choose to not post personal opinions on each and every little piece of information that comes out in the media.
As a matter of fact, I don’t believe anything that has been posted in the media, heresay by people who “know the band” or even what has been said in interviews by Jon or Richie. This is a private matter between the band and they are not going to play it out in the media. 
Even if there is a small kernal of truth in what Jon or Richie has said, it would only be “the truth” of the person saying it and what I have learned in life is there is your opinion, my opinion and somewhere in the middle you find the truth. Ask two people to tell the same story and you get very different versions of the events effected by their own personal perspective.
So basically, my view is to wait and see how it all plays out. No matter what is ever said or how it is resolved I don’t believe we will ever know the whole truth. Secrets will be taken to the grave for sure on this one.
Now having said that, I know many people here have lost their faith in the band and the fandom due to the differing opinions, interpretation of events and other people’s comments, but overall, I have not. I would be lying to say that it has not made me sad, disappointed and even angry somedays but my lifetime love for this band has not waivered.
Again, the Mom in me thinks that no matter how hard times get, if people pull together, put aside their differences of opinion and support one another, things will get better.
We have no power over what happens with the band but we do have the power to stay positive and support one another.
Recently, Braydon added a post that said”
"BEAUTIFUL THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY."
I believe, because of his tagging, that he was referring to the negativity in our fandom recently and how we are all fragmenting. Fans turning on the band members.  Friends turning on friends. People who used to find joyin the camaraderie distancing themselves and many even leaving Tumblr or the fandom altogether bacause they can’t stand to read the hostile and negative opinions being shared.
It made me think that instead of dwelling on the hard times the band has been going through, I once again choose to concentrate on the good and the positive.
What this band and their music has brought me is a lifetime gift of joy and I’m forever thankful to them. THE ENTIRE BAND. Thirty years is a long time for any band to stay toghether, we will just have to wait and see where the road takes them.
As long as they all end up happy, I will be happy for them. Together, or not. It is a small gift to give in return for the music and the sacrifices they have all made in their own lives to give us the music and the countless tours, for so many years.
So there you go Anons. That is my opinion. You can stop asking.

So I have been sent many, many messages about what I think about the band and their current situation. I will once again state that as I am just a fan like all of you, I have no inside information and I choose to not post personal opinions on each and every little piece of information that comes out in the media.

As a matter of fact, I don’t believe anything that has been posted in the media, heresay by people who “know the band” or even what has been said in interviews by Jon or Richie. This is a private matter between the band and they are not going to play it out in the media. 

Even if there is a small kernal of truth in what Jon or Richie has said, it would only be “the truth” of the person saying it and what I have learned in life is there is your opinion, my opinion and somewhere in the middle you find the truth. Ask two people to tell the same story and you get very different versions of the events effected by their own personal perspective.

So basically, my view is to wait and see how it all plays out. No matter what is ever said or how it is resolved I don’t believe we will ever know the whole truth. Secrets will be taken to the grave for sure on this one.

Now having said that, I know many people here have lost their faith in the band and the fandom due to the differing opinions, interpretation of events and other people’s comments, but overall, I have not. I would be lying to say that it has not made me sad, disappointed and even angry somedays but my lifetime love for this band has not waivered.

Again, the Mom in me thinks that no matter how hard times get, if people pull together, put aside their differences of opinion and support one another, things will get better.

We have no power over what happens with the band but we do have the power to stay positive and support one another.

Recently, Braydon added a post that said”

"BEAUTIFUL THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY."

I believe, because of his tagging, that he was referring to the negativity in our fandom recently and how we are all fragmenting. Fans turning on the band members.  Friends turning on friends. People who used to find joyin the camaraderie distancing themselves and many even leaving Tumblr or the fandom altogether bacause they can’t stand to read the hostile and negative opinions being shared.

It made me think that instead of dwelling on the hard times the band has been going through, I once again choose to concentrate on the good and the positive.

What this band and their music has brought me is a lifetime gift of joy and I’m forever thankful to them. THE ENTIRE BAND. Thirty years is a long time for any band to stay toghether, we will just have to wait and see where the road takes them.

As long as they all end up happy, I will be happy for them. Together, or not. It is a small gift to give in return for the music and the sacrifices they have all made in their own lives to give us the music and the countless tours, for so many years.

So there you go Anons. That is my opinion. You can stop asking.

Anonymous asked you: You are not a Bon Jovi fan. You are a Jon Bon Jovi Fan.

Anonymous asked you: Why do you think so many people suck up to you?

Anyone know what happened to Jon !?!

Fill me in please <3

Anonymous asked you: What’s your honest opinion on the Richie and Jon thing? Not your usual sugar coated one.

This is really getting annoying.

I receive about 4 of these a day.

I think my blog speaks for itself. 

Now leave me alone.

Anonymous asked you: I love you.

For every awful anon…there’s nice ones.

PUHLEASE COME OFF ANON!!!

I’m not that scary am I!?!

Whoever you are, thank you for your sweet message.

xoxo Gayle

Anonymous asked you: Richie is such an asshole. Don’t you agree?

Enough said.

Anonymous asked you: I love your blog. It is amazing!

Why Jon? Why?

Why do people send messages like this under Anon!?!

Whoever you are thank you so much. 

It is a labour of love with a whole lot of credit going to all the amazing bloggers here in this beautiful fandom who make and provide me with such lovely things to reblog!

Feel free to message me and let me know who you are… 

BONJOVIFAMILY CHALLENGE!

So we’re going to let the haters and angry fandom members win?

I don’t think so.

I challenge all Bonjovifamily Members to send positive, uplifting, supportive submissions to The Confessions Blog.

Instead of complaining…let’s do something about it.

Are you with me?

"Hii Gayle, Love what you’re doing to keep this family together. Hate to see it falling apart lately, but you always find a way to keep us together…. Love, Tena"
Thanks for the lovely message Tena
Guess it&#8217;s the &#8220;Jovimama&#8221; in me.
As for the Bonjovifamily, it was an idea formed out of the friendship and camaradarie many of us experienced a few years ago. Although bonds have waivered and even completely broken for some, the idea is still a beautiful one.
I was reminded recently by a new blogger that &#8220;us old time bloggers&#8221; need to remember that newer bloggers may not understand some of our references and it would be helpful for us to explain things better. Point made and taken. 
I was also reminded that although &#8220;old members of the family&#8221; were lovely, new ones can be too. 
For the longest time I think I was holding onto the time when we first established the Bonjovifamily but like everything, people change and that&#8217;s okay. I miss several of the old bloggers, some left the fandom for reasons of their own, some are still here but don&#8217;t interact like they used to, some lost faith in the band, one is gone not by choice and some just  lost the connection they once felt for the concept of &#8220;The Bonjovifamily&#8221; and that too is okay. 
A beautiful thing  that I have recently realized is that there are many new people here that embrace the idea of the Bonjovifamily. People who share the same enthusiasm and who have cultivated feelings for people that they talk to here. It has reminded me of how special those earlier times were and it has rejuvenated my excitement to come on here and talk to people who share a special love for this band, similar to my own. 
So whether you&#8217;re with us or not, the BONJOVIFAMILY bonds cannot seem to be broken. Whether they be with the old originals or with you new lovely people, I will always do my part to help provide a place where we can all feel wanted and appreciated.
xoxo Notoldjustolder

"Hii Gayle, Love what you’re doing to keep this family together. Hate to see it falling apart lately, but you always find a way to keep us together…. Love, Tena"

Thanks for the lovely message Tena

Guess it’s the “Jovimama” in me.

As for the Bonjovifamily, it was an idea formed out of the friendship and camaradarie many of us experienced a few years ago. Although bonds have waivered and even completely broken for some, the idea is still a beautiful one.

I was reminded recently by a new blogger that “us old time bloggers” need to remember that newer bloggers may not understand some of our references and it would be helpful for us to explain things better. Point made and taken. 

I was also reminded that although “old members of the family” were lovely, new ones can be too. 

For the longest time I think I was holding onto the time when we first established the Bonjovifamily but like everything, people change and that’s okay. I miss several of the old bloggers, some left the fandom for reasons of their own, some are still here but don’t interact like they used to, some lost faith in the band, one is gone not by choice and some just  lost the connection they once felt for the concept of “The Bonjovifamily” and that too is okay. 

A beautiful thing  that I have recently realized is that there are many new people here that embrace the idea of the Bonjovifamily. People who share the same enthusiasm and who have cultivated feelings for people that they talk to here. It has reminded me of how special those earlier times were and it has rejuvenated my excitement to come on here and talk to people who share a special love for this band, similar to my own. 

So whether you’re with us or not, the BONJOVIFAMILY bonds cannot seem to be broken. Whether they be with the old originals or with you new lovely people, I will always do my part to help provide a place where we can all feel wanted and appreciated.

xoxo Notoldjustolder

BONJOVIFAMILY BIRTHDAY LIST…

Have you messaged me yet with your birthdate?

http://notoldjustolder.tumblr.com/

C’mon! You know you wanna!

…and yes. I will be trying to get caught up on my mail.

To everyone who has sent me mail and I haven’t answered them…

Thanks for your patience 

The bad news is I am sick… :(

The Good news is I get to cuddle up in bed with Jon and all of YOU! :)

SO MUCH FUN LAST NIGHT!

…and with that I wish you beautiful Jovi dreams everyone!